Sunday, April 6, 2025

Obedient Children

In communicating and disciplining our children, we don't want to only stress rules, correction, and punishment.  Our communication needs to include rebuke, entreaty, instruction and prayer.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 shows us this communication should be all the time and everywhere.

Most fundamentally, this communication should be Scripture (Psalm 119:105; Hebrews 4:12).  We should not just quote Bible verses.  We must help our children learn how to apply scripture to life at every opportunity.  

Why do we do this?  To get to the heart of our children.  But we need to remember that we cannot change anyone's heart. 

Even without a heart change, there are times when we need to work with our children and their behavior, even if their hearts are still in process.

Obedience is the willing submission of one person to the authority of another.

Ephesians 6 gives commands to children to obey their parents and parents to help their children do this.

Here are two helpful video lessons on Ephesians 6:1-4.

Do Obedient Children Always Live Long? 

 

Fathers Aim at Trusting, Obedient, Happy Children.

 

Obedience is all the way, right away, with the right heart attitude.

Parents, we need to remember the following in parenting.
  • Consistency, threat with no consequences vs. commands with real consequences
  • Same standard, not mom vs. dad
  • Training, reactive vs proactive
  • Encouragement - reinforce positive behavior
  • Discernment, every family and every child is different
  • Graciousness - be thoughtful when asking children to obey




Friday, April 4, 2025

April 6

 Missionary: Nielen

Summer Camp Scholarship Form:
https://trinitybaptistgr.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/2825194

Toddler:
  • God Provided for Elisha
  • God provides us with homes. 
  • 2 Kings 4:8-11
  • Psalm 56:3
Pre-K/K
  • Jesus Agreed to be Our Deliverer
  • Jesus willingly agreed to deliver the world from sin. 
  • Matthew 26:31-75; Luke 22:61, 62
  • Philippians 2:8
The 1st graders will be combined with the 2nd–3rd grade class

1st - 3rd SS:
  • God is Praiseworthy
  • God, our Rock, deserves our worship and devotion. 
  • Deuteronomy 31:1-3; 30; 32:1-4; 33:26-29
  • Deuteronomy 32:3, 4a
4th - 5th SS:
  • Honor Your Parents
  • God wants us to respect and honor our parents. 
  • Exodus 18; 20:23
  • Exodus 20:12
1st - 5th CC:
  • Joseph Is Sold Into Slavery
  • God loves us no matter how others treat us. 
  • Genesis 37
  • Genesis 50:20

Sunday, March 30, 2025

Formative Discipline

Paul Tripp videos from Sunday:

Full video 49 minutes
Video Clip14 minutes

Thank you to Garrett Jones for teaching this class.

The notes below are taken directly from the manuscript of Lesson 5 Formative Discipline from the Capital Hill Baptist Church Core Seminar PARENTHOOD.

You must require proper behavior. God’s law demands that.  We’re simply saying … don’t be satisfied with correcting behavior and leaving their hearts unaddressed. 

1.  Why Do We Communicate? Two basic answers: 

Answer #1: We image God when communicate.

God is a communicator! It is his nature to reveal himself – and in particular with words. Scripture is God speaking to us. (Hosea 6:6 – knowledge of God > sacrifice) To know and be known, to relate, to express, to communicate knowledge – these are all in that list of things we do because we are made in God’s image. Why is that important? (Perhaps that sounds a bit “academic” to you). Well, among many other things, it reminds us that we’re not just wolves in a pack, if you will, nipping youngsters into submission to establish social order. We’re living souls – who have been given charge of other living souls, to nurture them and teach them.

Answer #2: Why do we communicate? Because we are commanded by God to communicate truth to our kids.

One of the Bible’s best parenting job descriptions is Deuteronomy 6:4-9, which we read last week – “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

Parents are commanded to communicate the truths of God to our children. And if you stop & think, that’s a pretty weighty command. Listen to this brief account in Judges 2. Israel had taken possession of the Promised Land and seen the Lord’s promises fulfilled in astounding ways.

But listen to what happens:

“After that whole generation had been gathered to their fathers, another generation grew up, who knew neither the Lord nor what he had done for Israel. Then the Israelites did evil in the eyes of the Lord and served the Baals. They forsook the Lord, the God of their fathers ….” Judges 2:10-12

They neither knew the Lord nor what he had done for Israel?! How could the very next generation not know what God did (and turn their back on him)? Apparently, they weren’t told. We, as parents, are charged with the responsibility of teaching truth to our kids. We are the primary means by which God uses to communicate truth to the next generation. (US – not the pastor or Sunday school teacher)

Why do we communicate? It is our God-given task, that our children may know their Creator and what he has done for us in Christ, and in so doing LIVE!

2. What do we communicate?

As a Christian parent you must have one supreme objective for your children: that they be conformed to – gradually changed into – the image of Christ. (Romans 8:29a – “For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son…” – this is God’s will for His children.) I want Christ for my kids.

A couple things are necessary for Christian maturity: the Holy Spirit and the Scriptures. We cannot impart the Holy Spirit. But we can impart the scriptures. The scriptures are necessary for Christian maturity. And it is our task as parents to impart them to our children and use them with our children.

• Psalm 119:105 “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.”

• Isaiah 55:11 "For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven and do not return there but water the earth, making it bring forth and sprout, giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater, so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.

  • Hebrews 4:12 “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword. It penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joint and marrow; it judges the thought and attitudes of the heart. 
  • 2 Timothy 3:16 “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”
We must teach them the scriptures, the truth about God. It is the scriptures that convict. It is the scriptures that distinguish good from evil. It is the scriptures that introduce us to God and train us to image him faithfully. God in Christ is the good news. God is what we want for our children. So we communicate His Word.

3. How Do We Communicate?

We often reduce parenting to three elements: rules, correction, and punishment. Thus, we reduce parenting to three roles: lawgiver, cop, and warden.

  • Lawgiver: You give your children the rules. (Don’t get out of bed) 

  • Cop: You police your children for breaking the rules (Why are you playing with your dress-up clothes when I put you in bed?) 

  • Warden: You enforce the sentence handed out for the infraction. (Now mommy has to discipline you.)

So in addition to Rules, Correction, and Discipline

We also are to use things like Encouragement, Rebuke, Entreaty, Instruction, Warning, Prayer

1 Thessalonians 5:14 says, “And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone. “

Warn, Encourage, Help, Be Patient

Rebuke: A rebuke censures behavior. Sometimes, a child must experience your sense of alarm, shock, and dismay at what he has done or said. Perhaps your child picks up language outside of the home. Use of “that word” publicly or anywhere else is not acceptable behavior (“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths…”)

Entreaty: This is earnest and intense communication. It can be pleading, urging and even begging. It is the earnest pleading of a father or mother who, understanding his child, the way of God, and the need of the moment, is willing to bare his soul in earnest pleading for his child to act in wisdom and faith.

Use this carefully. This is not to be used over spilled milk or mere foolishness. It’s Proverbs 23:26 “My son, give me your heart and let your eyes keep to my ways….” You entreat when you see wandering. You entreat when you see danger like the pull of pornography or sexual immorality, or when you see a cold heart.

Instruction or teaching: This is the process of providing a lesson, a precept or information that will help your children to understand their world. As a parent, you are the main means by which God is going to move your children from complete ignorance to knowledge of the world and the wisdom of God.

As parents we often get into a defense posture with our parenting, spending a lot of time correcting and punishing our children. It is very helpful to think about instruction as one of main tools in our arsenal as parents. When our kids do poorly in an area, one of the first questions we should ask ourselves as parents is, “What have we taught them about ___________?” [Example: cleaning their room]

This idea of instructing our children is in a lot of places in Scripture, including Psalm 78. The psalmist writes, “We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might, and the wonders that he has done” (v. 4).

Warning: Warnings put our children on guard against a probable danger. A warning is not a threat when best used. It is merciful speech. It’s the equivalent of posting a sign informing drivers of a bridge that is out.

Example: Proverbs 14:23 says “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” That’s a warning.

Example of a helpful warning: We ask our children to actually stay in their bed and try to sleep during nap time. So, we sometimes say, “Sweetheart, you’ve gotten out of your bed yesterday during nap time. If you get out of bed again today I am going to have to discipline you.”

Example of a problematic warning: “Do you want a spanking?” That’s a rhetorical question, if there’s ever been one. Don’t ask a kid if he wants a spanking. Another example: “I’m going to count to ten and if you’re not in here by the time I reach ten, you’ll get a spanking.” The problem is that you’ve just taught the kid that delayed obedience is fine. (Example of David and his mother saying “You’ve got ten seconds to come in” and then she started counting and David waiting until “8” before he moved.)

Prayer: Prayer is not communication with a child but with God, but it nevertheless is an essential element of communication between the parent and the child. Understanding what and how our children pray is often a window into their souls. And vice versa: a child can see the parent’s heart as he or she entreats their holy God.

I have heard numerous stories from people who were significantly affected in life by seeing their parents pray regularly. (e.g. “…every day I’d come down and see my mom praying for us…”) Last week, we quoted from testimonies from Charles Spurgeon’s wife and a visiting friend about his leadership in family worship. Susannah Spurgeon said this about Charles’ prayers: “He seemed to come as near to God as a little child to a loving father, and we were often moved to tears as he talked thus face to face with his Lord.”

Again – to reiterate – we are not all Charles Spurgeons. I don’t think I’ve ever moved my family to tears with a prayer. BUT – let’s not make that an “auto-excuse.” We can love our God. We can pray to Him in earnest. And we can live that out before our children.

Our praying with our children can teach our children:

  • That mom and dad are people under authority 

  • That God is the one to turn to in our need 

  • That we live a life of faith 

  • …just to name a few

Summary: You’ve heard the line, “If the only tool you have in your belt is a hammer, then every problem looks like a nail.” As parents, we need to develop the rich tool belt (if you will) that God has given us in communication. We need to avoid being merely the lawgiver, cop, and warden. We want to be coaches, encouragers, challengers, leaders, teachers, and prayer partners.

One more thought on how we communicate: Consider when you have a monologue with your child, and when you are having a dialogue. There are times when we need to instruct, entreat, or warn, and our child basically needs to listen. But there are also times when we need to talk with our child, ask questions, and understand what is going on in this heart. I know that my sinful tendency will be to preach to my child when the moment might require me to dialogue with them to understand why they are struggling. I’d encourage you to consider what you tend to do as a parent. Deciding when to have a monologue and when to have a dialogue requires discernment, so we need wisdom from the Lord. [James 1:5]

4. When and Where Do We Communicate?

Remember the verses from Deuteronomy 6 earlier:

These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.” Deut 6:4-9

At home, along the road, when you lie down or get up seems to be saying: Speak of God and his commandments always and everywhere! You don’t just teach the scriptures, but you talk about them and apply them in all kinds of places and in all types of circumstances, whenever and wherever life takes you.

As an interesting point, “Tie them as symbols on your hands” seems to be a metaphor for having the Scriptures govern all of our behavior. “Bind them on your foreheads” a metaphor for suggesting the Scriptures should govern our thoughts.

Put it all together, the Deuteronomy 6 passage is saying we should use every opportunity at all times to teach our children that the scriptures are to govern all of life.

Conclusion

Parenting is a giant act of faith. This communicating in a biblical manner the truths of scripture is seed sewing. We wait to see what comes up. By faith we wait – and pray – and trust.

If you’ve never read the story of Adoniram Judson, I’d encourage you to. He was raised by a minister in the late 1700’s – early 1800s. He graduated valedictorian from seminary (Brown University) when he was 19. Through friends he met there, he totally abandoned the faith – until, through some amazing events, God arrested his heart. Later, he became the first American missionary from North America to Burma and did a number of amazing things. It greatly encourages godly parents of the sovereign, gracious work that God – and ONLY God – can do in our children.

For that matter, reflect on the many baptism testimonies we hear in our own church. Note how quite a few of them go something like “I grew up in a Christian home, but wandered from my parents’ teaching in college (or high school…). But God….!”

So don’t give up on communicating to your children!

Friday, March 28, 2025

Daniel 9, Math, and KIDZ in Church

This week's KIDZ in Church passage is a tricky one, not just for children but for everyone.
Parents, use this message to help your family grow as a praying family.

"It is a wonderful thought that God's purpose for His people is always greater than their expectations."

SPECIFIC SERMON NOTES followed some HELPFUL NOTE to discuss Daniel with your children and some GENERAL KIDZ IN CHURCH NOTES.

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Daniel 9:1 –19 is about Daniel’s simple PRAYER request

Daniel 9:20—27 is about God’s BIG ANSWER

In last week’s sermon, we learned that prayers should….
agree with God’s WORD, the BIBLE
have GOD’s glory in mind.  They should not focus on me.
be in line with God’s PROMISES.

Math Stuff:

70 weeks =70 YEARS

49 + 434 + 7 = 490

At home, talk about how all this math shows God’s plan and power. 

History Stuff:

Who rebuilt the city of Jerusalem and its walls?
Artaxerxes     Daniel     Gabriel     Nehemiah     Titus

Who destroyed the rebuilt temple?
Artaxerxes     Daniel     Gabriel     Nehemiah     Titus

In the message, Pastor Brett said, "True Biblical Christianity flows from what is in you.  False, cultural Christianity flows from what happens to be around you in that moment.  Who you are when the culture around you is Christless is evidence of what truly is within you."

Parents, are you live out and parenting from TRUE BIBLICAL CHRISTIANITY?

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Some notes about Daniel 9 

From Family Worship Bible Guide

Daniel 9
  1. Throughout His Word, God commands us to pray, invites us to pray, and shows us how to pray. Daniel's prayer provides a pattern to follow. As you read through the prayer, note the following: (1) prayer is based on God's Word;  (2) it focuses on God's person and character; (3) it involves the confession of sin; (4) it makes great supplications; and  (5) it makes God's glory the supreme motive.
  2. Praying God's Word is a sure way to pray for God's will to be done. Jeremiah prophesied that the captivity would last for seventy years, and it would have lasted for seventy years whether Daniel prayed or not. But Daniel's praying that promise was an expression of his faith in God's unfail. ing Word and his appropriation of the promise knowing that the time was at hand. His praying for the Word to be fulfilled corresponds to Christ's model prayer, "Thy will be done" (Matt. 6:10).
  3. Notwithstanding the interpretational difficulties and disagreements regarding the seventy weeks, this prophecy, which was God's answer to Daniel's prayer, illustrates a wonderful truth: God is "able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think" (Eph. 3:20). Daniel prayed that God might end the captivity; God answered by pointing him to Christ, who would accomplish far greater things than ending an exile. It is a wonderful thought that God's purpose for His people is always greater than their expectations.
ChristianBooks.com says the following about the guide,  "comprised of family worship thoughts extracted from the Reformation Heritage Study Bible and presenting rich devotional thoughts on all 1,189 chapters of Scripture, this Family Worship Bible Guide may go hand in hand with your Bible to help you lead and nurture your family's worship and spiritual growth. Use this resource every day alongside Scripture to read each chapter's major takeaways aloud and then discuss them with your family.

From Christ Centered Exposition

“All who long for and love the anointed ruler, King Jesus, will experience in all its fullness the salvation blessings of 9:24.  Until then, we work and we wait.  We serve and we hope.  The plan is in place.  The clock is ticking.  The anointed ruler is on the way.”
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"8 Tips for Helping Your Child Worship"
These were shared in last week's parenting class.
For the post explaining each of the tips, go to tbcgrkidz.blogspot.com/p/kidz-in-service.html




March 30

 KIDZ in church (1st - 5th Graders) this Sunday.

Missionary: Nielsen

Summer Camp Scholarship Form:
https://trinitybaptistgr.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/2825194

Toddler:
  • God Provided for a Widow
  • God provides for our needs. 
  • 2 Kings 4:1-7
  • 1 Peter 5:7
Pre-K/K:
  • Jesus Pictured Deliverance 
  • Jesus showed us that only He can deliver the world from sin. 
  • John 13:1-17
  • John 13:8
The 1st graders will be combined with the 2nd–3rd grade class.

1st - 3rd SS:
  • God Is Unstoppable
  • God's plan could never be stopped or changed. 
  • Numbers 22-24
  • Numbers 23:19
4th - 5th SS: 
  • Remember Your Creator
  • God wants us to remember He is our Creator. 
  • Exodus 16; 20:8-11
  • Exodus 20:8, 11
1st - 5th grade will be KIDZ in Church this week. 

For more about KIDZ in Church Sundays, go to tbcgrkidz.blogspot.com/p/kidz-in-service.html

Sunday, March 23, 2025

Getting to the Heart

Remember, "our goal in parenting is not ultimately for our kids to get an excellent education, be great athletes, find a great spouse, or get a great career.  Our goal is for them to see a great God and want to live for Him"  (David Platt).

Psalm 78:4b, 7

But recount to the generation to come the praises of Yahweh, And His strength and His wondrous deeds that He has done.

That they should set their confidence in God And not forget the deeds of God, But observe His commandments,

Matthew 28:19 - 20

"Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”

Getting to the Heart

Bible verses related to today's lesson:

  • Proverbs 4:23
  • Mark 7:21 - 23 
  • Luke 5:45
  • Psalm 131


Inability



Control




Friday, March 21, 2025

March 23

 KIDZ in church (1st - 5th Graders) on March 30.

Missionary: McMaster

Summer Camp Scholarship Form:
https://trinitybaptistgr.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/2825194

Toddler:
  • God Promised to Be with Moses
  • God promises to be with us. 
  • Exodus 3:7-12; 12:37-39; 12:19-22
  • Psalm 32:8
Pre-K/K
  • Jesus Offered Deliverance
  • Jesus deserves our praise for delivering the world from sin. 
  • Luke 19:28-40; Zechariah 9:9
  • Mark 11:9
The 1st graders will be combined with the 2nd–3rd grade class

1st - 3rd SS:
  • God Is Merciful and Gracious
  • God sent Jesus to be the final sacrifice for our sins. 
  • Numbers 21:1-9; John 3:14-16
  • John 3:14
4th - 5th SS: 
  • Respect God's Name
  • God wants us to respect and praise His name. 
  • Exodus 13:17-15:13; 20:7
  • Exodus 20:7
1st - 5th CC:
  • Jacob Wrestles with God
  • God is worthy of our trust and submission. 
  • Genesis 32:1-33:17; 35
  • Psalm 37: 4, 5